Anyone Can Be A Confident Public Speaker!
When I first started speaking in public, I was a nervous wreck - I hated it! The idea of having to stand up and deliver a presentation would leave me stressing for days. I can’t even say with certainly exactly what it was I feared - was it making a mistake? Tripping over myself on the way to the lectern? Having everyone laugh at me? Even though I couldn’t specify the outcome I feared most - I new with certainty that I was scared!
I had a choice; I could go on experiencing these awful symptoms every time I had to speak or I could do something about it. I chose the later! So I did my research and read everything I could get my hands on about how to feel less nervous when speaking in public. And with a big of practice I did it! I have now had the opportunity to speak confidently in front of thousands of people all around the world, and I actually enjoy it!
I don’t tell you this to boast or brag, but to prove that anyone can do it. You don’t have to be an extrovert or even an outwardly confident person. Every one has it within themselves to confidently speak in public. It may take time and some practice but I am here to tell you its well within your grasp. “To escape fear you have to go through it, not around” ~Richie Norton.
There are two main tips I share with people who are nervous about having to speak in public.
The first is to be mindful of what you are telling yourself before you speak. It’s very easy to get bogged down by all the negative thoughts swirling around in your head just before you have to speak. We say to ourselves things like ‘nobody is going to like my speech’, ‘everyone will think I'm the worst presenter ever’ and ‘I hope I don’t make a fool of myself’! We tend to focus on these thoughts and create a false reality. We believe this false reality without even stopping to check whether our thinking is valid or even factual. We just run with it!
If you are serious about controlling your nerves you need to watch what you say to yourself. By mindfully being aware of your thoughts you can start to see that it is just your brain having irrelevant thoughts and they are in fact not your actual reality. The more we stop and question our thoughts the better we are at seeing how much those thoughts can create the feelings and emotions that we are experiencing.
The second thing I tell people is to Practice, Practice, Practice. I love the anonymous quote “don't practice until you get it right, practice until you can't get it wrong”. In learning to overcome my fear I would practice for hours, going over my material until I knew what I was saying inside and out. I would practice what I was going to say, how I was going to say it and even practice how I was going to move around the room. I would practice how I would take questions and how I would respond.
It may sound obvious, but by practicing until your speech is routine you are reducing the amount of things that can go wrong ten fold. And if you know things can’t go wrong, then you will be reducing a lot of the stress that comes before giving a speech. When it comes time to give your speech you can just stand and deliver - you don’t have to think about it too much, just go through the routine you have already practiced time and time again. It allows your brain to focus on what comes next rather than what could go wrong.
Throughout your life there are going to be many occasions where you may be required to speak in front of a crowd or large audience. Weddings, funerals, birthday party’s, meetings, committee’s, the list goes on. You can choose to go through life getting nervous before every single occasion, or you can learn to overcome your fear of public speaking. The choice is yours!
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