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Intention..... life is about choices!

I first started using intentions a couple of years ago when a few special events didn't quite go to plan. Once after a fight with my wife about running late for dinner, I was left wondering "how did that happen?". We were meant to be going out for a lovely dinner together, our first night out without the kids in ages, and now we aren't even talking to each other. Instead of waiting patiently and thinking, "it's okay if we are little late" or "isn't it nice the effort she is going to for our big night out" I got caught up in my own internal monologue "I can't believe she is running late again" "why is she doing this to me". Something I had been looking forward to for weeks was now in tatters because I wasn't focusing on the right thing.

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I -I took the one less traveled by,And that has made all the difference

Nowadays, apart from being a little more patient, I like to remind myself before an event exactly what my intention for that event is. If we are catching up with friends it might be about connecting and enjoying the experience. If I have a special occasion planned for me and my boys it could be to really enjoy this stage of their lives (before they grow up!). If we are out to dinner it might be to really savour the flavours of my food or the entire dining experience. My intention has never yet been to be on time to a restaurant!

I also use intentions to start the day on the right foot. Before I even get out of bed, I will think about what I am trying to experience out of the days activities. That might include; being more mindful, being a supportive husband, practicing patience, laugh more, interact with nature, be kinder to people, work on building my relationships, and the list goes on......

Setting my intention at the start of the day helps get me in the right frame of mind for the rest of the day.Intentions can be vague; for example to be an awesome Dad today. But they can also be very specific; to be home from work 10 minutes early to help my kids build their new Lego plane. And of course it can be a mix - you will find what works best for you.

It's important to come back to your intentions throughout the day so you may want to write them in your phone, on a post-it note or on the back of your hand (that can sometimes be an interesting conversation starter!).

And if things go wrong or you get sidetracked, that's ok. You can always make an intention to try again tomorrow. Do you use intentions? I would love to hear in the comments below how intention works for you.

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